Personal Opinion · Relationships

Love Only Knows Love

Let me just start off by saying I am a Christian, I believe in God and the Holy Bible. So I guess that means I’m suppose to believe same sex marriage is wrong, because the Bible says so, right? Wrong. Even though I am a Christian, I think people should be able to love whoever makes them happy without being judged. Who am I to judge anyone? The Bible also says you aren’t suppose to judge others, and to love thy neighbor. Now I know we all sin, if God wanted us to be perfect he would’ve made us that way. So if you judge gay/lesbian couples because it’s a sin, you are no better than they are because you are also committing a sin. The way I see it, everyone will have to answer for their own choices on their judgement day, so I am not going to spend my life concerned with how other people choose to live their lives, because in the end I won’t have to answer for them. I only have myself to answer for, so I’m only worried about the life I want to live. But, as far as interracial couples go, why are there still so many people with so much hate about this? There’s nothing in the Bible or any type of deadly sin on this matter, so it can’t be blamed on religion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but really what’s the big deal here? Mixed race couples are becoming more and more common so it cant just be ignored, and it shouldn’t be. Again, people should be able to love whoever makes them happy without being judged. I feel like the newer generations are becoming more open minded and accepting and it’s such a good thing. There is already so much bad and hate in this world why should something that isn’t hurting anyone cause people to hate? A man loving a man, or a white woman loving a black man, isn’t going to hurt anyone or cause anyone to be killed. Focus hate and energy on the real criminals like terrorists, murderers, rapists, child/animal abusers, etc. These are real crimes that hurt others. It is 2019, it’s time that people learn to accept others that are different than you are. Different race, sex, religion people who just believe differently than you do, is all okay. You don’t have to agree with anyone else, or change your beliefs, but you don’t have to hate anyone because they live or believe different than you do. Love does not see skin color, or gender. Love does not see height, weight, eye color, or hair color. God made us all differently on the outside, but on the inside we are all the same. God made us equally. Love only knows how to love.

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Family

Blood Isn’t Always Thicker

Ive heard on more than one occasion, “you can’t love your step children the same way you love your biological children.” Same goes for parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc. People who think this way are simple minded. To me, family is family. I know it is possible to love your un-biological the same, or even more, than your biological relatives.

My parents divorced when I was three, then my mom re-married when I was six. That second marriage gave me a step sister, then not long after, a half brother. Personally speaking, my brother is no more my brother than my sister is my sister regardless of what our DNA will tell you. I don’t love either of them more than I love the other. My step dad raised me and loved me just as his own. He is my dad in my eyes, I just consider myself lucky to have two dads. My biological grandfathers were never much apart of my life while growing up, so I don’t really know them. But the man my paternal grandma married when I was only one, that is my paw paw. He’s the one who’s been there for me my entire life. I also have some uncles, aunts, cousins, etc that are related to me by marriage, same thing applies, I love them just the same.

My whole point is, you don’t have to be related by blood to be family, and you can love your non-blood relatives the exact same. I know they say blood is thicker, but the way I see it, I have family who isn’t blood, and blood who isn’t family.

Relationships

Let That Hurt Go

Love is patient, love is kind. 
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.  
Love never fails. 

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Everyone goes through it. First loves. First heartbreaks. It changes most people. Well, atleast it did me, I thought he was the one I would spend the rest of my life with, my first love, my high school sweetheart. Love will make you do things you never thought you’d ever do. You think, why not? They’d do anything for me too, because we love each other, right? But then, you start to not even recognize yourself. You can’t understand why someone who loves you so much would hurt you so badly. Well the truth is, they might love you, or they might think they really do love you, but some people just don’t understand what it actually means to really love someone. So they just don’t know what love really is. I had to learn that the hard way, and it took me a really long time before I did. No matter what he did, I always took him back and forgave him. It’s like they have some kind of hold on you, something that makes it impossible for you to let go, and you don’t know how break away from it. But once you finally do, it is the best feeling in the world. You will start to find yourself again, and more than anything, you will be so proud of yourself. But just because you finally can decide this person will no longer be apart of your life, doesn’t mean you can just decide to stop caring. I’m not sure if you ever really stop caring for someone you once loved. Only time can tell the answer to that question.

What I do know, the relationship I was in for almost ten years was not good for me. I felt sad all the time, unworthy, unwanted, unloved, and unappreciated. There are many ways to abuse someone not just physically. And from my personal experience, emotional or mental abuse can be just as bad as physical. Atleast bruises and scars heal, and go away. When you’ve been mentally abused it drains the life from you, and it takes a long time to find within yourself the strength to recover from it, and realize you do matter, you are not worthless. My advice to anyone out there in an unhealthy relationship, but doesn’t know to get out of it, trust me when I say you can do it. Don’t do it because your friends tell you to, or your family wants you to, you have to want out. You have to come to your breaking point when enough is enough. I’m not saying it’s easy, especially if they continue to call or text. It’s hard to ignore it and to stay away, but you are strong enough, you have it in you. Just search for it and when you are ready, you will be able to let that hurt go, and it won’t be as hard as you thought it would be.

Recipes

Stuffed Taco Shells

I actually got the idea from Pinterest and I love almost anything pasta related, so I decided to give it a try. It’s super easy to make, and cheap. Quantity of ingredients is based on how much you want to make. Of course, I done a few things different than the Pinterest recipe, but it’s most definitely one of my favorite foods.

Ingredients

  • Jumbo Pasta Shells
  • Hamburger meat
  • Shredded Cheese (I use taco blend, but you use whatever you prefer)
  • Cream Cheese
  • Salsa
  • Taco Seasoning

How to Make

  1. Brown hamburger meat
  2. Boil pasta shells
  3. Once meat is completely browned, drain
  4. Put drained meat back on the stove, add taco seasoning and water and bring to a boil, stir
  5. Add in cream cheese and salsa, bring to a boil
  6. Stir until cream cheese is melted
  7. Drain shells once they are done boiling, make sure to let them cool
  8. Cover an oven pan with foil and spray to keep shells from sticking
  9. Fill each shell one by one with meat mixture and place on baking pan
  10. Once each shell is filled, add a spoon of salsa on top of each shell
  11. Sprinkle shredded cheese over each shell
  12. Cover the entire pan with foil to keep shells from hardening
  13. Bake about 10-15 minutes until cheese is melted

Hope you enjoy πŸ™‚

Criminal Justice · Personal Opinion

Death Row

Probably one of the most contradicting topics in America. I have watched a whole lot of death row documentaries, also I’ve read a good bit about it. The reason I say it’s contradicting, is because I can’t say I support it, but I can’t say I’m against it neither. I’m on the fence about whether it should be used as a method of punishment or not. Murder is wrong, obviously, so I do feel like there should be some extreme punishment for taking another life. But, as a christian, I don’t believe it is the government’s place to play God and decide when someone should die, and then kill them. Yes, I know they murdered someone, but they should have to answer for that. What makes the state any better to kill them just because the law says its okay? Murder is murder, and either way it is wrong. It should be up to God when it’s someone’s time to go, and if an individual made that decision on another person, they will answer to God for that themselves. But at the same time, murderers obviously should not ever be set free, and in the state of Alabama the average cost of housing is $14,780 per inmate per year. Why should tax payers have to pay to house someone that we know should never get out of prison? Of course, if the system didn’t incarcerate non violent offenders for lengthy sentences we might have the extra tax money to house the death row inmates vs killing them. It costs thousands of dollars just to purchase the drugs for lethal injection. Also, on death row inmates get a final meal, did their victims get to request a final meal? And how many people have been executed then later proved they were innocent? All I’m saying is, the death penalty does prevent prisons from over populating, but in order to execute they should have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that this person is guilty of the crime, DNA, surveillance video, recorded conversation, confession etc. And also, make sure beyond a reasonable doubt that the person was not suffering from a mental illness at the time of the crime. I am not for or against the death penalty, but I am against executing innocent or mentally ill people.

War Eagle

Why I Love Football

Okay, there’s a lot of reasons why I love football actually. But let’s talk about how much I love when Auburn pulls off something nobody saw coming, and makes football history. The Iron Bowl (Alabama vs Auburn) is one of the biggest college football rivalries in the country. In 2013, we’re down to the last second of the game. Alabama is about to kick a field goal to tie the game sending us in to overtime. Every Alabama and Auburn fan are a nervous wreck. Then the unthinkable happens… Literally with 1 second on the clock, Alabama misses the field goal. Auburn’s Chris Davis catches the ball, runs it 109 yards all the back to score and win the game. IN ONE SECOND. I wouldn’t have believed it if I didn’t see it myself. Best game winning play in football history, hands down. I still to this day get chills watching this video.

War Damn Eagle

Entertainment

Netflix: Binge Worthy

THE 100

The 100

If you don’t know what show to binge next on Netflix, and you’ve never seen this one, I HIGHLY recommend. Probably one of the best shows I have ever watched. I am not very good at explaining plots, but I will try my best. So, 97 years ago a nuclear explosion wiped out the earth’s population, and makes the planet un-survivable for humans, the only survivors left of the human kind are the space stations who were not on earth at the time of the explosion. All of the space stations combine to make “The Arc” to have more resources of surviving in space. So, the show actually takes place way in the future. The Arc is running out of oxygen. So they have to come to a solution, or everyone will die. They decide to send 100 of their juvenile prisoners to earth to see if it is survivable for humans, so everyone on The Arc can come down. The show follows the 100’s arrival to earth and how they survive on their own on a planet that’s been extinct for almost a century. (Atleast they thought it was extinct) I don’t wanna give away too many details, but trust me, it is well worth the watch.

Entertainment

So You Think You Can Dance

I was a dancer and a cheerleader growing up, so still to this day I love watching dance videos. Hip hop was always my favorite, but I also liked lyrical, jazz, cheer, and tumbling. Just like I have favorite music artists, I have favorite dancers too. One of them, Twitch from So You Think You Can Dance. So I thought I’d share one of my favorite dances with Twitch, hope yall enjoy πŸ™‚

Personal Opinion

Doctor Assisted Suicides

What is Doctor Assisted Suicide?

A doctor assisted suicide is when doctors help patients, who are terminally ill, end their lives on their own time, in a peaceful manner. So this would only apply to people who are already dying of cancer, heart disease, organ failure, etc.

My Personal Opinion

There are so many different views and opinions on this topic. In my opinion, doctor assisted suicides should be legal in the United States for terminally ill patients. These people are already dying, and most of the time these diseases cause slow, painful deaths. With doctor assisted suicides you do not feel any pain, and you get to choose when you’re ready to go. Why let people suffer longer than they have to, if they don’t want to? Only 7 states in the U.S allow doctor’s assistance in choosing to die, but you have to go through so many different steps before it is approved. But, don’t get the two confused. There is a huge difference in doctor assisted suicides and suicides. People taking their own lives is a tragic event that happens way too often these days, mostly because of mental disease, or depression. These are both real issues that can be helped if the warning signs are noticed. But terminally ill people with cancer, or any other terminal disease, these can not be cured. Dying is inevitable, and the individual person should be allowed to legally choose when they do not want to suffer any longer and get to go in peace. I know if I were diagnosed with a terminal disease, I would want the right to decide if I die slow and painful, or quickly on my own terms.

Below is the official trailer of a show I watched about doctor assisted suicides. I have also posted the link to watch the show on Hulu. It is worth the watch, and might make you understand more about what doctor assisted suicide is, and how it can benefit society.

https://www.hulu.com/series/mary-kills-people-7ab4a3dc-836c-45df-a50a-11d9ebf1707e